Stalking is never ok. If you are being stalked or think that you are being stalked do not feel it is because of something you have done, it is not your fault. Do not feel embarrassed about it and try to talk to someone about it.

Here are some things you can do to make yourself safer and more in control of what is happening to you.

Gather evidence
Whether you want to report or not gather evidence of what is happening is helpful and will help you feel more in control and if you do want to report it will be easier to do so.

• Make sure you keep a diary of every incident, tape any phone calls – there is a copy of a stalking log included in the supporting documents
• Use Follow it app which helps you record stalking as it happens
• Take screenshots of any emails and save copies of them.
• If you can, take photographs or video your stalker (if it is safe to do so) Improve your safety
• Tighten up security at home, to and from home, and at work. Consider alarms, camera, spy hole in the door.
• If your stalker is someone you think might have keys or access to your home change the locks to your home if you can.
• Vary your daily routine if walking or driving to work or other places.
• Be careful when giving out personal details when on the phone, dealing with credit card services, social networking sites and people you meet.
• Tell people what is happening to you, particularly at work and at home. Talk to neighbours, friends, and colleagues.
• Consider the possibility that you are being tracked through your phone, geo location or tracking device.

 Golden Rules for Victims:
1. REPORT IT AND TELL OTHERS – report it to the police and ensure other people know about it including your family, friends, neighbours, workplace, children’s nursery/school. 
2. ENSURE YOU GET GOOD PRACTICAL ADVICE - contact the National Stalking Helpline 0808 802 0300 
3. PROACTIVE EVIDENCE COLLECTION – ensure you keep all messages/gifts preserving all the evidence. You can also film or video the stalker to collect evidence and if followed in a car take them to an area with lots of CCTV for example. 
4. OVERVIEW OF WHAT’S HAPPENING- KEEP A DIARY - log what is happening including time, date and details of what happened. 
5. RISK CHECKLIST - COMPLETE THE 11 RISK SCREENING QUESTIONS - If you think you are at risk complete the stalking screening checklist http://www. victims 
6. TRUST YOUR INSTINCT AND NEVER MAKE CONTACT WITH YOUR STALKER– always trust your instinct and if you are frightened or worried call the police or go to safe place. Ensure you do not contact or respond to the stalker in any other way. 

There are two ways you can tell us what happened